The parents using play to stop children getting ‘trapped’ by screens

The parents using play to stop children getting ‘trapped’ by screens

The UK government recently introduced updated recommendations, advising that children aged five and under should have no more than one hour of screen time daily, while toddlers under two should not be left unsupervised with electronic devices. This strategy encourages “screen swaps,” where parents replace screen-based activities with interactive experiences like storytelling or games. However, implementing such changes proves challenging for many families.

Errol Murray, a father and founder of Leeds Dads, has made reconnecting families a personal focus. Each Saturday, he leads his 10-year-old son Isaac and other local fathers in exploring new activities—such as discovering wildlife at a nearby lake or participating in soft play sessions that include a complimentary meal. “It’s refreshing to break away from screens,” Errol explains, noting a shift in his son’s behavior. “When we give a short alert to step away, they often resist. You need something compelling enough to draw them back from phones, tablets, and TVs.”

“You’ve got to find something that makes them turn away from phones, screens and tablets, because you get trapped there.”

Errol and Isaac particularly enjoy park walks, especially when Isaac can bring his remote-controlled car along. “Engaging in activities with your kids instead of saying ‘see you when you get back’ helps create meaningful bonds,” he says. As the Leeds Dads group expands, many parents struggle to balance technology use with quality time.

A recent study by the National Literacy Trust revealed a 25% decline in parents who engage in daily play with their children since 2019. Researchers from Durham University and the University of East Anglia tracked over 6,000 hours of language exposure among 163 toddlers and babies over seven days. They focused on the impact of face-to-face conversations rather than screen-based listening. Using MRI scans, they observed that children exposed to richer interactions showed greater myelin development, improving their ability to process language efficiently.

“The number of words a child hears at these early ages is literally shaping their brain,” says Dr Samuel Forbes. “Every interaction is crucial. It’s never too late to begin talking to your child, and it’s never too late to interact in different ways. We can see what it’s doing to the brain.”

Kirsty MacDonald, who leads early years programs at the National Literacy Trust, highlights that families facing financial strain often lack the tools to reduce screen time effectively. “Many families, especially those in poverty, may not have the resources or guidance to support language development,” she notes. Time pressures from work and the convenience of technology further complicate efforts to limit screen exposure.

Some parents use screens as a tool for connection. Sam, another Leeds Dads member, shares how his family incorporates digital elements into their routine. He now uses a tablet to create music with his children, aged five and six. “I’ve always loved music, but as a dad, I felt lost without hobbies,” he says. “Now, the kids enjoy it, and it’s become a shared experience.” Yet, even with creativity, challenges persist, especially after long days. “You have to seize your moments,” Sam adds. “Sometimes, the best option is just watching TV together when everyone needs a break.”

Despite these hurdles, communities are experimenting with innovative approaches to foster deeper connections. Whether through organized activities or simple shared hobbies, the goal remains the same: to ensure technology enhances, rather than replaces, meaningful family interactions.